No-strings-fun sounds like a simple thing without a care needed. Truth of the matter is it’s important to make sure you’re safe, make the effort and are respectful – after all these aren’t just traits that apply to long term commitments.
It’s often a common misconception that just because it’s a casual one night stand, the effort doesn’t need to be there at all. Why this view has come about could be for a number of reasons – the fact you’re never going to see this person again, the negative view people have on one night stands or maybe even the media. Whatever the reason that simply isn’t the case. One night stands are not always the cheap, sleazy events that you see in movies or on TV. Just like any normal date, they should and can be treated in the same way.
Many people out there when you mention the idea of a one night stand immediately picture picking up some guy or girl in a bar or club and taking them back to the bedroom before kicking them out the following morning. Sure this is certainly the case some of the time however it can also be the exact opposite.
Thanks to online dating we are now able to arrange casual encounters without the need of a bar or drinks. Websites specifically tailored to meeting others for one night stands are a hotbed for eager singles looking for fun. Of course not everyone wanting to date casually is single, so it is good to know that people interested in married affairs dating will also be able to find a like-minded naughty partners online. Thanks to these sites one night stands or casual encounters can be made a lot safer and also better.
Why safer? For one you aren’t immediately hopping into bed with someone you’ve just met that night. Using a website you can get to know people a little through casual chats. Things like protection can be discussed. You can also arrange to meet men or women in places both safe and familiar to you such as a local pub or coffee shop whereas on a night out, heading home from a club with a complete stranger doesn’t exactly scream safety.
Why is it potentially better though? Whilst going to the bedroom with someone you’ve just met at a bar can be exciting, it is a little rushed and doesn’t look nearly as glamorous as it does on TV. There’s absolutely no reason why a one night stand can’t be treated in the same fashion as a regular date. You could go out for a nice meal and a couple of quiet drinks, chat to this person and get to know them. Of course the sexual side of things will come into play later on but it doesn’t have to be the only thing to focus on. Even when you do just want to focus on the sex why not go away to a nice hotel? Taking the time to talk to someone can also allow you to discuss what you both like and dislike, therefore making the whole experience the best it can be. The options are seemingly endless when you look to put the extra effort in.
Simple things like dressing nicely and being polite also go a long way. Sure the experience is for one night and fairly casual, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t make the effort on both ends.