Online dating is no longer something to be frowned upon. Where once using websites such as www.mysinglefriend.com were regarded as something for people who couldn’t get a date elsewhere, now it’s seen as a way of streamlining your matchmaking effectively and successfully. Here are five reasons to try it, for those who remain unconvinced:
Figures released by Statisticbrain reveal some illuminating facts about the world of online dating – more than 41 million people have tried online dating in the US alone. Twenty per cent of all committed relationships began online, and only 10% leave within the first three months.
Generally online dating is successful, and a big part of that attraction is the simplicity and speed of setting up and maintaining a profile, and its adaptability to mobile platforms where profiles can be checked at the touch of a button. All one needs do is answer a few simple questions and the fun can begin.
You’ve found a problem: there just aren’t anyother 6ft-plus Turkish-speaking falconry fans in your town. But that’s where the magic of online dating can help – as you can instantly get in touch with people who tick all the boxes from across the world.
This writer knows of at least two Anglo-American couples who were connected across the digital ether; similar interests and personalities were established before the duo ever met, and the Atlantic didn’t prove a barrier. Without online dating those relationships could never have started.
Increased chance of success
You hate people with blonde hair? Fine. Not interested in men with beards? Gone.
Can’t stand people who cook? Bye bye.
The algorithms and parameters that find people who would be compatible for you are largely under your control, and it reduces the timewasting and frustration that the old-fashioned ‘blind date’ engendered. It doesn’t matter how curious your choices may be; the important thing is that they’re your choices.
By creating a matrix of likes and dislikes (and being eliminated from other people’s choices), you have a far greater chance of success before you’ve even started properly communicating. This fantastic Ted talk by Amy Webb tells the story of mathematics applied to online dating – and turns into an unlikely success story.
You’ve turned up at a date and it’s bad news; you’re not compatible. In fact, you don’t actually want to be near one another. Looks, personality, views on life – they’re all wrong, and the whole much-anticipated process has proven to be a giant waste of time, money and effort for both. It isn’t exactly a confidence-builder either. Even worse, what if half of the equation quickly realises their mistake and rejects their date partner immediately?
These horrendous tales should be eliminated through online dating, providing partners have taken the time to get to know each other before diving in. Those late night online discussions and dialogue, free of embarrassment and social convention, can often lead to frank and honest discussions of relationships, wants and needs, which would be impossible in an initial face-to-face date.
The only pressure that an online dater faces is created by themselves. It’s difficult to say how many people seeking dates actually go on to meet someone, but there’s actually no obligation to do anything or speak to anyone.
If you’re paying money to sign up (the average spend per year by dating site customers is $239) then you’ll probably be looking for a date, but if there’s no-one who floats your boat, then you don’t need to do anything. Similarly, you can message people online, but if you don’t wish to progress to a meeting that’s your prerogative.