Are you considering taking your relationship to the next step? Think you are serious and secure enough to live together? If so, you may need to consider a few things about yourself and your significant other before you make the commitment. Moving in together is a huge step and can make or break your relationship. Included here are a few things to consider before you take the leap.
Have a Good Reason
Moving in together should not be an action driven by necessity. If you are unable to pay your bills by yourself, you need to address your financial status. Do not simply move in with someone because it seemed convenient and financially reasonable. Those are a few benefits of living with someone, but there is a lot more that goes into building a home together. Find a good reason you want to be with your partner 24/7 before packing boxes.
Understand the Money Situation
Many couples spend up to 45 minutes a day discussing household problems or chores. Take the time to have a good understanding of where you and your partner stand before moving in. Talk in-depth about financial readiness, bills, and rent or mortgage payments. Make sure you know who is responsible for paying which bills so you do not have fall-outs later.
Divy Up the Chores
Understand who will be responsible for which chores and hold each other accountable. Early on in a relationship, it can be kind of you to do the dishes for your partner, even if it is their responsibility. Unfortunately, you will grow tired of doing these small kindnesses for a lazy partner with no return. If everyone does their share from the beginning you will save hurt feelings and arguments later on.
Take a Trip Together
Spending an extended period of time traveling with your significant other can give you insight into how they would be to live with. If you cannot tolerate them during a flight, in a cramped hotel room, or during a roadtrip with extended hours in the car, you will not enjoy living with them 24/7. While stress does tend to be higher during travelling, it will help you get a better idea of your partner’s true colors.
Have an Exit Strategy
While no one really wants to consider what would happen if they broke up, it is something that needs to be thought about individually before you move in. You may also need to discuss who gets to keep which belongings in the apartment and who gets to keep the residence after a split. Many individuals choose to ensure that they have enough savings to make it a few months in the apartment on their own, should the other person move out.